What comes to mind when you hear the word discipleship? Maybe you grew up watching your parents live out their faith in simple, authentic ways. Or maybe the word makes you cringe—bringing back memories of long lectures or forced conversations. Perhaps you know discipleship matters, but you’re unsure where to begin. Wherever you land, you’re not alone. Each obstacle has a solution—and discipleship doesn’t have to look complicated or overwhelming.
Common Obstacles We Face
I’m not qualified. I don’t know where to begin. I’m not even sure what discipleship looks like. My kids are bored and distracted. It feels overwhelming. Our schedule is packed. I’m tired. I can’t add one more thing to my plate.
Maybe your list looks a little different, but the heart behind it is the same: I want to do this. First, let’s get rid of some unrealistic expectations and pressure. Discipleship doesn’t have to involve elaborate activities, carefully crafted lessons, or long family devotions that require hours of preparation. In fact, let’s completely toss the idea that discipleship must be a ten-minute (or longer!) sit-down activity.
Start With Your Daily Rhythms
Discipleship works best when it’s woven naturally into everyday life. Look for simple moments already built into your routine: Pray for your children before they hop out of the car for school. Share a struggle you’re facing and how God is helping you through it. Pause during a beautiful sunset and thank God for painting the sky. When you mess up, let your kids hear you ask for forgiveness.
Talk about what you’re learning and ask your children what they’re learning about God. When your child has had a rough day, sit beside them and offer encouragement. With older children, asking thoughtful questions can open a window into what they believe and what’s really going on in their hearts. Small, faithful moments—repeated over time—matter more than you realize.
Why Passing on Faith Matters
Scripture is clear about the importance of family discipleship. In Deuteronomy 6, God instructs parents to talk about Him when walking along the road, sitting at home, lying down, and getting up. We are given a brief window—about 18 short years—to pour into our children’s hearts and point them toward God’s unfailing love.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Remember, you’re not meant to walk this journey by yourself. Your children’s or youth pastor can recommend resources, answer questions, or offer guidance. Church leaders are there to equip families, so don’t hesitate to reach out.Most importantly, remember this truth: It is God who begins and completes the work in our children’s lives (Philippians 1:6). He wants you to succeed.
—Sally Cressman is the author of The Dance of Easter. Sign up for her email list to receive Prayer Sheets for the Family or connect with her on Instagram.
